A Special Kind of Mom!

I had a great day. My husband and I hosted Financial Peace this morning. Our class is going well. I sometimes feel that we aren't helping anyone in their journey to peace and then someone comes back with victory story. I also get discouraged because DEBT FREE feels so far away. However looking back, my family has come a long way. We even had our emergency fund 4x and the last time only took us 4 weeks. Thank you Jesus for you blessing. Afterwards, we went to Fall on the Farm at Watkins Mill. I look at all the great things still in existence today. All made from a great entrepreneur and his family, all done with no debt, and I feel relieved. What can we do in a few years with do debt? Dreams are only dreams if you do nothing about them. But the real reasons why I write is the realization that we all come from different lifestyles, we all have dark days that seem like weeks and sometimes months. Then all of a sudden, there is a light and blessings abound that show us God is still in control. I want to tell you a story of a young woman, about my age, whom I met today. Her period of dark time inspired me to marvel in the everyday blessings that are poured upon my family and myself.
It seems that it should be every woman's right to be a mother if they so choose to be. There are some that want a career, some that want only to be a woman in all her glory without children. It seems to me that some of the strongest women are those denied the chance to be a Mom. Her heart longs for that little butterfly in her womb. She wants to raise a great warrior for the family of God and knows that she will guard that little angel with her life. But for some unknown reason, she is denied this opportunity of a miracle. Or so I might think. Is she denied, or are these barren women called for a higher purpose? Are they the select few that will raise a child that is not their own flesh and blood? You see, I don't think adoption is for anyone. I really believe that loving someone else's child as if it were your own is a trait not bestowed upon any woman. This can't be an easy task. There is a longer period of bonding, there is learning their habits that you didn't instill with them, the child doesn't share your blood type, DNA, or even family traits and appearance. However, those select few Mom's and Dads, can still say proudly, "this is my child, whom I love so much," and have no other thought in their mind except what just came from their mouth.
Well, back to my friend. I told her that I really loved coming to these historical reenactments. They are great live action history for my home school children. She explained that she too was home schooled from 3rd grade to graduation. She told me that she had taken college type courses in high school homeschooling but by the time she got to college, her education wasn't recognized because she was home schooled. So she had to endure boring long classes already taken, and even made a bit of spending money tutoring students in her own classes. Finally her teachers let her advance without any more flack. During college she met her husband while volunteering at Watkins Mill. They married on the farm and shortly after wanted to have a child. Well little did she know that trying for her dream baby made her very ill. She could not have her husband's child. She was thrown into early Menopause at 24. Not only could she not have a baby, adoption of a child was out of the question. They had too many debts from college and life.
At this point, I began to tear up. After all, I am now carrying a child that I know was God's timing and will. Here I am pregnant with very little trouble (we totally left this one in God's hands) and I was sitting face to face with a woman that will never be able to have one of her own. I said a prayer to God then and there, thanking him for my children. I also asked him to bless her in some way. My heart broke for her.
She then says to me and my sister in law, "But don't be upset yet, my story goes on." I smile and think this woman is incredible. She said that her husband and her made a decision then and there that they were to be debt free. She and he worked hard but never lost hope of having a child. Their future child may not be there own blood, but it would be their child none the less. They did it too. They became debt free.
At this point someone came along and urged her to visit another doctor in KU medical. She didn't want to go. I don't blame her.  She had been poked and prodded and told numerous times that she would never have a child. After praying and urging, she went to this doctor.  This doctor however, found that she had a rare disease and that with medication, she could actually carry a child. She was going to adopt an embryo. I guess that people who get in-vetro can choose to carry all the embryos they conceive, terminate them, or freeze them for later use. The ones that are frozen can then be adopted out for another women to carry. These babies are then implanted into a host mom. It will be her child and she will get to experience pregnancy, labor and birth. Well this wonderful lady will now be carrying a child come January. I told her that she inspired me and that I will continue to pray for her. I pray that her body doesn't reject that baby. She looked at me and said, "I hope not too, but I can now adopt any child I want. Either way I get a baby!" I was thrilled and amazed at her outlook on life.
So after learning this, I never wish to complain that I can't handle this or that. I don't ever want to take my calling of being a mom for gran it. I hold in high esteem Mothers that have no children of their own. They are much stronger than I.
Sometimes, we go through trials and it seems like there is no end to the battle. Just know that your Heavenly Father is on your side and he has a reason and time for everything. We must learn to trust Him and always praise and worship Him. Thank Jesus everyday for the many blessings we have. If you can't think of one, I can. You are alive, breathing, and you have someone on your side, Jesus!